Rules of love?

From childhood we are wired in that: “We get what we give”. Maybe that is the sole reason why we are asked to love others so that we are loved in return. After all who doesn’t like to be loved. Subsequently, as we grow up we tend to give love, explore love, feel love, gain love but eventually as years go by we start to understand that love just becomes an ecosystem cycle for us; the more we give, the less percentage we have for the next time when we try to love. Then we realise why people say in indian movies: “Aur pyar, pyar bhi sirf ek he dafa hota hay” – Kal ho na ho (no pun intended) because we love that one person only once to our fully infinite percent. After that one huge love haul our heart once broken curses us to never love anyone this much because maybe we betrayed it pushing it to pour all the love in it to that one person who leaves…It’s more like if heart is a love factory and all it’s machinery works with the efficiency of 100% for just one time, for just one person and stores that particular DNA of that one person’s laughter, fights, spark in those eyes, sacrifices, compromises, pranks, even every goofy act in it’s machinery and never wills to work for anyone else. We make movies on how to fall in love, how to get out of love but none of it is true because what real life love feels like when u fall in love is not by just one look or by the sound of foot steps or by the seductive dressing- it’s when we see someone’s bare soul extended towards us. It is the when the most raw form of expression is felt. It is when the most intense rhythms of pain our accepted by the other soul so it can fix it. Falling in love is sweet as honey, exciting as some roller coaster and adventurous as bungee jumping. Even the pain you feel for the one you love is light as a petal, you don’t care because your heart is soo in to give it all that all it’s pain receptors die. As for getting out of love? Well that is very untrue because love is not attraction or attachment that vanishes in few days or months or even years…love stays…once love conquers your soul it plans to stay forever because no matter how many more angelic souls you meet, deep down it knows how it felt with “THE ONE” and no amount of love or care from anyone else can replace that. Even when people say they fell in love with the wrong person or at the wrong time, there is no such thing because love always happens with the right person at the right time…only when we fail to achieve it then we conclude our false theories and that just to tell the crowd or console your heart but it’s always a futile attempt. Always.

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This too shall pass…

I know it can get hard to understand the places He’s taking your life to, it’s all in His plan to take us to the place where He wants us to be. Nothing hurts more than being disappointed by the person you thought would never hurt you. Don’t cry for your loss. Allah has a plan for you. He’s not punishing you…He’s preparing you! Sometimes He has to remove certain things/people from our life because He loves us too much to see us hurt. Allah won’t take anything from a believer without replacing it with something better.

Allah said in the Qur’an, ❝Perhaps you may dislike something which is good for you, and like something which is bad for you. Allah knows and you do not.❞ (2:216).

And to all those suffering from sadness or depression, know that it isn’t your fault. It isn’t because you’re weak. It isn’t because you’re just not grateful enough. It isn’t because you’re just not religious enough. It isn’t because you don’t have enough faith. It isn’t because Allah is angry with you. To all the well-meaning people who tell you this, just smile. And know deep in your heart that the tests of Allah come in different forms to different people. And know that, by the help of Allah, every test can become a tool to get closer to Him. And that, verily, with hardship come ease–and like all things of this world–this too shall pass.

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True Happiness lies within you!

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“Sometimes we must undergo hardships, breakups, and narcissistic wounds, which shatter the flattering image that we had of ourselves, in order to discover two truths: that we are not who we thought we were; and that the loss of a cherished pleasure is not necessarily the loss of true happiness and well-being.”

― Jean-Yves Leloup

Our life is a constant journey of joy and suffering and leads through the valley of death. Our current life is temporary and it will end one day for sure but the real life lies behind the curtains of death. We live like we are going to live forever and never die, what a fool is human soul. Making paradise on earth? Considering yourself superior to others and not forgiving the other soul for his mistakes? Who do you think you are? Who created you from soil and put life in your lifeless model of clay? Who forgives you for your bitter sins and yet still loves you? Who is the master of life and death and true happiness? Who has the right to punish and judge? Indeed, Allah Al-mighty and you still think you are superior than Him by not forgiving others? Like you can never go wrong or made any mistake?

Adam and Eve had to encounter the devil — the whispering tempter — who made them suffer to forget a clear commandment of God! As a consequence, they lost Paradise and entered into a life of labor and pain.  But still they retained dominion over all other creatures on the earth and received forgiveness of God.

Allah says in the Holy Quran:

Having hearts wherewith they understand not, and having eyes wherewith they see not.”

We think true happiness is not forgiving others and holding grudges and always reminding them of what they did but that’s not the truth. True happiness lies in forgiving others. Even if you suffered; endure and forgive. If you are not merciful with the creation of God how will He be merciful to you on the Day of Judgment? We think asking for an apology will make us look inferior to the other person or accepting our mistakes will make us unworthy of anyone’s trust but it only makes you stronger. It helps you find your true inner self as you start accepting yourself. It helps you grow.

Rick Warren’s best selling book “ The purpose driven life: What on earth am I here for?” reflects the idea of the presence of human soul on this earth is not to fill in their bank accounts or in pulling other’s legs or trying to make your appearance look better…its in finding the true meaning of your existence and you can only find that by letting go of grudges and being a rainbow in someone else’s cloud. That’s the only only thing that will help you attain true inner peace. By studying Holy Prophet (p.b.u.h), his personal sufferings juxtaposed on his most successful life, and through his practical demonstration of compassion, peace, comfort, service to others, love for all and hatred for none, we find the most shining example in the person of the Most Noble Prophet Muhammad of reconciling the existence of a Compassionate and Loving God and human suffering. (May peace and blessings of God be on him.) It was not merely an intellectual reconciliation, it was a factual and most impressive reconciliation between God and human suffering. the important thing should be is to learn how to handle human sufferings retaining full faith in a loving Allah!

True happiness lies within yourself not in people or worldly things…it lies inside every soul because there is a reflection of God in every soul so before hurting anyone’s feelings or not forgiving others or even blaming someone for something they asked an apology for, just ask yourself once: What will this give you? Will this be fruitful? Will this help you achieve inner peace? How will you face God and ask for His forgiveness when you weren’t kind to His creation? Ponder.

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What satisfies a human soul?

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It’s not too hard to begin anything when you are already in the middle of it. We are in the middle of our lives and still think that everything around us needs an initiation, which isn’t partially true. Although what needs a start is starting over what’s already gone or was never there for you in the first place. Trying to be less philosophical here, what actually satisfies a human soul is not how something begins but how it ends so it’s really for another beginning.
Let me put it this way, we begin to contribute our best for something that can be a job, relationship or even any kind of work and keep doing it so we can reach the state of satisfaction but that satisfaction is not to initiate our work but to give our best until it’s not finished. So what we are actually trying for is a satisfied ending but sometimes giving your best can’t even satisfy a place you’ve been working for. That’s where it ends: when you cannot satisfy a human soul.
On the factual side, human soul can never be satisfied. We were born selfish and evolved to be even more selfish as we keep discovering new things…from fire to clothes and technology we never stopped. There was a cessation of desires and it kept going until today and till the world ends it will. This is who we are but in actual we are not trying to satisfy ourselves but other souls. In short our satisfaction lies in the satisfaction of other souls that we want to please. That can be our boss, our teacher, our friends, our parents, our spouse, our partners or anyone. That is what human soul is working for: to satisfy another soul for his own sake. We can do it by hook or by crook. Whether it takes him to go against his dogmas, culture, religion, beliefs, hurting someone, killing someone, he doesn’t care.
We have become worse than animals and evolved into Darwin’s theory of survival of the fittest by brutally slaughtering other beings for our own sake and one day our perfect utopia will raise such generations who won’t be warriors or fighters but satisfiers. Alas! Even this won’t satisfy his soul because only the one Who made it can satisfy it. Indeed.

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The Selfish Gene

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Man is not, by nature, deserving of all that he wants. When we think that we are automatically entitled to something, that is when we start walking all over others to get it.”
― Criss Jami, Diotima, Battery, Electric Personality

This writing piece is especially for those who think world is a wish-granting factory or is a bed of roses.

It’s said that nothing can bring you to peace but yourself.
I didn’t really believe it until it hit me like a lightning. Just incase you are wondering how; its called the trusting and breaking process. Let me tell you a story.
Once upon a time there was a bird whose heart was full of merriment and jubilation because she knew the world was a beautiful place and nothing could ever go wrong until one day she went flying to a forest. There she found a sycamore tree. It was the most beautiful tree she had ever seen. She never thought something this beautiful; with sharp heavily protruding branches could ever exist. The tree seemed wild, carefree, shady, fruitful…most of all secure. She was in love with that tree. She trusted that tree would save her from every storm and shade her no matter what. Subsequently, she decided to reside there as she depended on it. One day she was returning home when a hawk came chasing her. She wanted to run and hide so she went to her tree but Alas! The tree was still and selfish. The hawk chased her and ate her. She died.
Pretty depressing and heart-breaking but that’s what life is all about. When we are born we know the closest thing to us is our mother as she feeds us and takes good care of us but as we grow up we forget the cycle of evolution and survival of the fittest. All we know is everyone is like our mother but as people start to hurt and break us, that helps us wire our brains with the human’ selfish gene. In short, this world is a selfish place. From human to every living creature, selfishness prevails. Penguins are selfish because they kick off their penguin partner over the mountain into the ocean just to make sure if there isn’t any seal lingering for them, Female Mantis eats male Mantis during mating, humans kill humans emotionally, physically, financially or in any way just to lead themselves ahead. This is what the cycle is all about but you can’t blame this world or the people because it’s entirely up to you to find your happiness and not depend on people. Don’t give them the power to break you because they will.
It’s just like this, when you love someone, truly love them or friend them or trust them wholeheartedly, you lay your heart open to them. You give them a part of yourself that you give to no one else, and you let them inside a part of you that only they can hurt- in short you hand them the knife with a map of where to cut deepest and most painfully on your heart and soul.
So whose at fault here? Yes you are! Just because you are honest to someone doesn’t mean they will be the same to you. You don’t know what’s going on in their heads. You expect so much from someone just because you know you will do exactly the same for them. In the nutshell I wont say this world is a evil place to live and quote Sigmund Freud although I truly love his writings and theories but still I think everything happens for a reason. People change so you can learn to let go, wrong happens so you can appreciate the right, you believe in lies so you eventually believe to trust no one and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. Even this story I told you have something for everyone because you shouldn’t go on depending on someone or something 100%. Just have faith in yourself and learn from every experience of yours. Don’t even go on taking revenge for what has been done to you because Allah is sufficient to take revenge, indeed. There is a reason why God wants you to have such experiences because He is preparing you to be someone He wants you to be. So feel it, let go and be happy because you learned something :)

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Wasn’t Enough

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Oh dear friend here’s a tale for you,

Listen carefully and you might find a clue,

In cold dark nights when shooting star pierce the sky,

I look up and pray not to cry,

I’m not broke, sweetheart I am dead,

They are two different things you will never understand,

I let my heart and soul out for you,

I did all I could and what did you do?

Oh my darling why wasn’t it enough?

I did all, all easy and tough,

Now I’m just counting my days till I die,

There will always be a note left unsaid,

All those days and all those nights,

I can never forget your laughter and our fights,

Where did I go wrong please come back and explain?

Help me; tell me so I can escape this terrifying pain,

I have cried every night to these sad songs,

Songs that seemed stupid once now mean all,

You’ve left me for the crowd that’s so cool,

That’s because I cared so much and you easily made me a fool,

Oh my darling why wasn’t it enough?

I did all, all easy and tough,

Now I’m just counting my days till I die,

There will always be a note left unsaid,

Do you even miss me when someone calls out my name?

Do you even have what I gave you; the memories or they are just lame?

How can you be so cruel when you always said you loved me more?

I know I’m not that interesting but was I that bore?

I will always pray for your eternal happiness,

Because I’ve lost mine and now I’m dragged to nothingness,

Oh my darling why wasn’t it enough?

I did all, all easy and tough,

Now I’m just counting my days till I die,

There will always be a note left unsaid….

 

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You can never escape the labyrinth of suffering.

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” You spend your whole life stuck in the labyrinth, thinking about how you’ll escape one day, and how awesome it will be, and imagining that future keeps you going, but you never do it. You just use the future to escape the present.”

John Green, Looking for Alaska

Labyrinth as defined is a maze, more like an entanglement. It is like a chamber of secrets like the one in Harry Potter but when it comes to life, it’s like a web that keeps growing. We identify the journey of evolution to be a long procession of some obscure realization of gains and losses, which gradually evolved the sensory organs to register the presence of pleasure and pain, comfort and suffering. If we look back at the lower forms of life, at the first few rungs of the ladder and compare them with the higher forms of life near the top, it is not difficult to recognise that in real terms the evolution is the evolution of consciousness. Life is constantly spiralling up from a lesser state of consciousness to a higher state with continuously sharpening faculties of awareness. The awareness of gain and loss is rather vague and obscure in the beginning, and we cannot locate a definite seat for this awareness in the anatomy of rudimentary organisms. But we know from their reactions to the surrounding elements and situations that they do possess some defused sense of awareness. It is this diffused inexplicable sense that is employed somehow by the Creator to initiate the sense of perception in life. Evidently therefore, the brain developed as an essential counterpart of the system of perception. The more evolved the consciousness becomes, the more intense grows the sense of loss and gain felt by specific nerve centers which translate the awareness of loss as suffering, and gain as pleasure, to the mind through the brain. The less developed the consciousness, the smaller is the awareness of suffering. So when a child is born, he has just clicked in this ultimate warren of life and it begins. With age his labyrinth keep growing but with the sprouting of the alacrity of discovering and conquering things, his suffering increases. Every phase of life comes with a whole new labyrinth for every individual and that welcomes pain, enduring and suffering. In our journey from a mother’s womb to our grave, we are in a continuous struggle of exploring and achieving and desiring even more and in all that desire and energy to conquer we have to travel through all these bumps and jumps of suffering. Labyrinth is like a game you play where suffering is the jumps you make to reach to your goal and if you can jump through that suffering and surrender… you are dead. That is a big reason why people commit suicide because they give up. They can’t take the labyrinth of suffering anymore. In Jay Asher’s book, “Thirteen reasons why” Hannah actually went a road down to the thirteen jumps of suffering during her labyrinth and the last one was a suicide call. When you find the room, the room at the end of it all where you look back on your journey, you will see the handprints of everyone who has ever touched your life. Making it hurt less with each touch. But what will really move you will be all those handprints that you will behind on everyone else’s Labyrinth. The Universe is a labyrinth made of labyrinths. Every religion, culture and mind has own school of thought regarding this maze of enduring.

To quote the Buddha in his words:

But what, O Monks, is the Noble Truth of Suffering? Birth is suffering, sickness is suffering, old age is suffering, death is suffering; pain, grief, sorrow, lamentation, and despair are suffering. Association with what is unpleasant is suffering; disassociation from what is pleasant is suffering. In short, the five factors of individuality are suffering.”

In The Holy Quran Allah says:

Verily, We shall put you to test with some fear, and hunger, and with some loss of wealth, lives, and offspring. And (O Muhammad) convey good tidings to those who are patient, who say, when inflicted by hardship, “Verily we are of God and verily to Him shall we return;” upon them is the blessings of Allah and His mercy. ” (2:155)

It is the perpetual struggle between life and death that subjects the living to a constant state of trial, so that all who conduct them best survive and gain a higher status of existence. Herein lies the philosophy and the machination of evolution as described in the verses above. It is this constant struggle between the forces of life and the forces of death, which provide the thrust to the living to perpetually move away from death or towards it. It may result either in the improvement or deterioration in the quality of existence in the wide spectrum of evolutionary changes. This is the essence and spirit of evolution. So basically no one can escape it because if you are living, you are a part of this labyrinth of suffering. This makes you a part of evolution. So the only way to escape is to understand, learn, accept, forgive and move on.

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Words.

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“Of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these, ‘It might have been.”

― John Greenleaf Whittier, Maud Muller – Pamphlet

The most amazing thing about writing the first sentence is you never know where it will take you. Sometimes it takes you to an ending of a new beginning. Its like a cycle, where one thing ends the other starts, where one life ends other begins, where one soul is broke, a stronger ones takes birth and this terrific cycle revolves around this one word containing 5 letters; “Words”.
Everyone is a writer. You don’t need a degree or read millions and trillions of books or even gobble funk with words to be one because all you need is experience, suffering, feeling and urge to write. One day you meet someone and for some inexplicable reason, you feel more connected to this stranger than anyone else–closer to them than your closest family. Perhaps this person carries within them an angel–one sent to you for some higher purpose; to teach you an important lesson or to keep you safe during a perilous time. What you must do is trust in them–even if they come hand in hand with pain or suffering–the reason for their presence will become clear in due time. Though here is a word of warning–you may grow to love this person but remember they are not yours to keep. Their purpose isn’t to save you but to show you how to save yourself. And once this is fulfilled; the halo lifts and the angel leaves their body as the person exits your life. They will be a stranger to you once more. So I often find myself staring at graveyards, wondering if this life was enough for the passed ones to say what they wanted to or maybe they did say all they wanted to or maybe the recipient didn’t understand and when they did…it was too late, the sender was already gone. I often wonder if anyone is going to remember me or my words when I’m gone. Will they ever mean anything to anyone? Most of us think that way…maybe all of us but very few accept this. Words are what we breathe. Even the shortest ones can be that can hurt you, save you or shatter you forever.
Words are the window to one’s soul, when you settle down to write something, you are basically opening up yourself and letting your window haul in some light that reflects you and creates a vivid picture of yours in the eyes of the reader. Today I am here, writing the first thing coming to my head. I am not thinking or exaggerating or even asking a fellow being to contribute some ideas to get a good rating. I am just writing, thoughts dancing through my mind and coming out of my fingers in the form of words because sometimes you just want to sit somewhere and write. You don’t care if it makes any sense or not to the reader because it makes sense to you and you are okay with it. So am I. Words can be twisted into any shape. Promises can be made to lull the heart and seduce the soul. In the final analysis, words mean nothing. They are labels we give things in an effort to wrap our puny little brains around their underlying natures, when ninety-nine percent of the time the totality of the reality is an entirely different beast. The wisest man is the silent one. Examine his actions. Judge him by them. So basically its so dark right now, I can’t see any light around me. That’s because the light is coming from you. You can’t see it but everyone else can. I am not writing for the sake of reader’s understanding or encouragement, I am just writing because I wanted a big fat sack of words off my head and here it is. All delivered by a medium known as words.

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“Men Can’t Write”

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Subsequently, it ends.

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There is no real ending. It’s just the place where you stop the story.

It is quite easy to let someone in but almost impossible to let go of them. This is the worst thing about endings; things come to slow and go to fast. I let it go because sometimes it’s not always about you, you can’t be selfish and let others suffer for your actions and jubilation. It is always important to know when something has reached its end. Closing circles, shutting doors, finishing chapters, it doesn’t matter what we call it; what matters is to leave in the past those moments in life that are over and you can only recall them and torture yourself your entire life by being silent and not letting even a cry out but inside, only you know how you feel…only you know you are mutilated, at havoc..numb. Then you give all away and the worst part, you can’t even explain because it transforms into a story that you can never tell to anyone. Marking an end to it ends the contentment you used to feel in crowd because all you feel now is emptiness no matter how elated you are or you should be. In short, now you are a hypocrite..wearing a mask of merriment and pleasing others is what start doing because you lost your happiness somewhere in the dark that can never be found or regained. Now you have reached to nothingness. 

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